Can Love at First Sight Lead to Lasting Relationships?
Hello readers, Jaime here. I’ll start you off with one simple question. Do you believe love can truly be at first sight? Most would say that depends on who you ask, others would say it depends on who you’re looking at. I’d say yes, even if love at first sight does exist, it does not guarantee your relationship will last.
Love is already a complicated thing, if you had to put it into words, can you express why you love who you love? Is it deeper than what’s on the surface, and did it start that way? Love has a simple outline: attraction, compatibility, sexual desire, and connection. You may look attractive now, but can you keep that up, and for how long? As they say beauty fades after all. But, is it your beauty that makes your partner stay, your personality, or maybe a little mix of both? I’d like to argue that every relationship starts with attraction and timing. Most of us can decide in 5-10 seconds whether we find someone attractive. It’s what comes out of their mouths that keeps us around. Even if what’s said is exactly what you’d like to hear, if you’re not ready to hear it, “Prince Charming” may not be so charming. It takes more than just good looks to shoot your shot, especially if the court is closed.
Attraction vs Desire
Sometimes a person can be exactly what someone else needs. That can also mean, what they need in that moment. I believe that’s where the phrase “love at first sight” originated from. It’s not only about seeing your potential partner, it’s about experiencing them. First impressions matter more than anything when meeting someone new. We focus on the physical first. The face, hair, body, and clothes. Then on to their smell. Their breath, scent, and environment. Lastly, their words during the introduction, and if it all goes well from there you may land your first date. Possibly a second and third, but no promises that it will get to rings, and vacations. If all those boxes are checked, it’s assumed that the feeling of “love at first sight” will wash over you. Maybe even leading you to dream about them in bed. Leaving you thinking about how they will make you feel, what they can do for you and do to you. However, how long will that feeling last?
Looking at Love From a Realistic Lens
It is up to both of you lovers to either make it work from there, or call it quits. No matter if you think you’ve found the one, there is always that creeping moment where things can get a little messy. At some point the illusion fades and you have no choice. You will be faced with seeing your “love to be”, or potential throwaway for who they truly are. Love at first sight is really about the feeling, it’s more than the view alone. Sometimes love fades, but in the same breath, love can grow to be something beautiful. For now, I’ll leave you with this. Love at first sight may be real, but it’s not long-lasting. People change, feelings and intentions change. It’s better to be up front with yourself from the start. Ask yourself, is “Prince Charming” who you really even want to begin with? Save yourself the trouble and realize that attraction opens the door, but connection decides who stays. Look at your potential partner from all sides. Is that fleeting feeling going to carry you throughout your relationship? Once the rose-colored glasses come off and they’re standing there naked in your doorway, will you lead them into your bed?